Meghan Markle’s poignant confessions about her miscarriage.
On Wednesday, November 25, The New York Times published a very touching column by Meghan Marle entitled “Our Common Losses. With an open heart, the Duchess of Sussex revealed that she was expecting a second child, but unfortunately she miscarried in July.
“Before getting my son from his crib. After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms… I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”, said Prince Harry’s wife..
A few hours after the incident, she found herself in hospital in a cold, white room. Saddened and pained, Meghan and Harry’s eyes were filled with tears as they had just realized the loss of their child. The Duchess watched her husband’s heart break and wondered at the same time how they would recover from the miscarriage.
“Sitting in a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, “Are you OK?”
Afterwards, she expresses feelings that accompany the grieving of a child. The sadness and feelings of shame that many women experience when they miscarry.
« Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage.”, she explains..
“Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.”, adds the duchess.la duchesse.
The former actress of the Suits series declares that you have to talk and not keep your pain to yourself. Releasing your feelings is an important step in the healing process. In addition, she explains that a miscarriage should not be made a taboo subject.
Meghan continues her talk about the difficult year we’ve had with the deaths of loved ones related to Coronavirus. She also talked about the Black lives matter events and the deaths of Breonna Taylor and George Floyd. All these events, these societal struggles led us to feel isolated and very alone.
She concludes with the hope that each of us will have acts of kindness towards our neighbor by asking “How are we doing? Solidarity, kindness, will allow us to overcome this difficult phase.
You are strongly advised to read Meghan’s poignant column on the New Yor Times website.